Five Lessons I Disagree With

People of high caliber grow up to become doctors or engineers.

My parents wanted me to become a doctor, but when I explained it to them that science is not something that I see myself pursuing they understood my perspective. What I knew at the age of 15, I had immense trouble conveying it to people twice my age, that being, a career is not chosen simply to be considered brilliant by others. It depends upon your interest and aptitude, not that a 95% holder has to necessarily be a doctor or engineer. If that statement were remotely true, then isn’t it ironic that the high caliber people have entrusted vital matters like governance, defence, education to people of low caliber. Touche.

Marks can take you to places in life, they are a testimony to the knowledge you possess.

From what I have learned in life, marks don’t do wonders, they can’t get you a college of your fancy or land you a job or bring eternal bliss. Mostly they are figures on a piece of paper gathering dust in a cupboard.  We all criticize people for running after hollow numbers in the form of money or profit but isn’t that what we are taught when young, run after marks and see how they lighten your lives. Once educated, an individual begins to look for alternatives to satiate that obsession of chasing behind numbers.

And marks do not reflect your knowledge, if you know something but do not possess the skill to present it beautifully on paper(read making flow charts, underlining the text, using different color pens, etc) odds are that you might just land a mediocre score. Also, at times like in Delhi University’s case, your marks might just be inflated or deflated in order to silence the critics of mindless education reforms.

 A dignified girl walks on the street with her gaze lowered. She doesn’t talk to a friend, laugh with her  friend nor does she smile. She treats her own brother as a stranger, for a little affection can project her as a girl of compromised character in the eyes of a passerby.

A dignified girl has every right to walk with her head held high, she can chatter, she can be amused at a joke or be chirpy with her brother. Being human or an expression of her feelings does not undermine her dignity.

Every year, we had a prayer session in school during which a Sister would make us pray for our and our family’s well being. During these sessions, she always impressed us on us that she had the power to detect who amongst us were dating guys, hence have betrayed our parents and vitiated the sanctity of our souls. She also led us to believe, that she had once summoned Jesus Christ through prayer to write an exam for his true devotee, who could not recall a single word in her exam owing to an illness.

An objective of education, inter alia others, is to erode superstition. There is nothing wrong with teaching children to have faith in God but propagating myths while doing so is completely condemnable. Tell children, that God rewards your devotion sooner or later, one’s faith should not waver in the face of an adversity, if you fail once, work hard to succeed the next time. Because no man or woman on this planet has the power to summon God to undo a failure or mishap.

Secondly there are a thousand and one better to address teenage dating instead of ‘I have an eye filter to detect moral delinquents’. One of them being, having a one to one discussion about the mental and physical repercussions consequent of an early relationship. And if you are so hesitant to speak about it or believe that a discussion is solely the parents’ responsibility then please leave the issue entirely.

When the news of Arushi Talwar’s murder broke out, a very respected teacher commented on the same. He told us that her mobile transcripts show around 200 messages sent to one of her male classmates number. Her focus was more on hosting a hep birthday party than her studies. His father is alleged to have cheated on her mother with one of their family friends. He concluded that her choice of lifestyle claimed her life, that it was a consequence of her own actions and sooner or later it was bound to happen. Her father had no sense of right or wrong and thus could not impart good moral values on her.

Any given lifestyle that one chooses to adopt, does not qualify them for being murdered in cold blood. Even if you cannot digest the metropolitan upbringing or the sharp deviations from the deemed protocols of living (that you have imagined), at least bear sensitivity to the fact that a young girl was killed and it is no time for character assassination.


10 thoughts on “Five Lessons I Disagree With

  1. alokita says:

    I strongly agree with all your points.Infact,it took me one year after school to make my parents realize that
    medical was not just meant for me.
    P.S- we were in the same school you mentioned:P

    • Palak says:

      Thanks! I can understand, I had to argue with a stranger even who was applying for his daughter’s admission at the reception that I don’t want to opt for science.
      Carmelite? Same batch?

  2. Rajlakshmi says:

    I am so glad you wrote on this… this world is changing every minute and with that we need to have a progressive thinking…to think that few actually have views like that is depressing

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